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She stuck by the letter of the law, and was able to severely limit my contact with my son by way of orders of protection and maintaining to the courts that he was a ‘danger.’ Of the divorced, professional men that I know, all of them had orders of protection against them by their wives.This is even a problem that is recognized by the courts.During my lengthy divorce, my ex-wife claimed I was abusive, that she was ‘afraid for her safety,’ and tried to get ‘supervised visitation.’ None of it worked, because it wasn’t true, and because, as an educated professional I had enough money to spend six figures on an attorney. ) and being instructed to call me by my first name and not ‘dad.’ I grew tired of making phone calls that weren’t answered, or of being put on hold and the child not coming to the phone, and of cancelled visits.It was heartbreaking seeing the child slip away from me, little by little. There is the assumption that the man will just sit there and take the abuse because he does not want to lose the child.The sooner you start applying these tips, the sooner you can start thinking about what you’ll be doing 50 years from now. (And while you’re at it, check out these 40 Best Things to Do in Your 40s! A positive attitude toward life can be the difference between checking out early and being the last one at the party.
In the end, I walked away from all contact with my child more than two years ago.
I still believe this, but I also believe in empathy, and for recognizing each other’s humanity.
Here is one story from a commenter on the above posts: From John G: From my own experiences, I believe it’s widespread for women to use children as a weapon to exact revenge against the ex during, and after, divorce proceedings. My son was being tutored on what to say to me (did you ever hear a 7-year-old respond ‘I’m not comfortable talking about that’ when asked a question?
The thirds set take the difficult road, and sacrifice years of their happiness, battling on a hopeless battle with the ex, just to maintain some sort of contact with the kids.
The fourth way, is to simply give up, and decide that the cost to the child through seeing the conflict, and to oneself, is too high.