Dating saying too much too soon question to ask before dating
I was 21 years old when I drove from Texas to Colorado with my friend Christie to attend the wedding of a friend from Japan. Unbeknownst to me that very evening my future husband sat across the dinner table from me.At the reception we discovered with delight that the bride’s mother had arranged to seat all the single people at the same dinner table so we could “mingle.” “Who knows what might happen? It wasn’t long before we began a long-distance courtship, got engaged, and then married.A sort of ‘emotional sex’ that can be just as harmful and heartbreaking, when it moves too deep, too fast.” So how can you tell when emotional intimacy is pushing the limits? “Slow and Steady” are the words that should come to mind. Wait until you know you can trust someone with those things that matter to you.Don’t share your most intimate personal details or your darkest secrets in the early stages of dating.
Alisa Grace ('92) serves as a consultant to the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships where she also co-teaches a class on Christian perspectives on marriage and relationships.We are created by God to connect and yearn for relationship with one another. It’s only natural that as you get to know and like someone, that you desire for them to know and like the you.But for many, the temptation can be to go too deep, too fast – especially emotionally. Why is it vital for us to guard our heart, as the writer of Proverbs puts it, .Our wedding took place just 14 months from the day we met, and that was almost 30 years, three kids, two dogs and three mortgages ago.I still have every precious card and letter we wrote to one another during that time.